What this means is that this agreement is intended to avoid gossip, lies, empty promises and other ways to create problems with our words. Just say what you mean, and realize that you can cause damage if you are not careful with what you say. Points to Be Aware Of: This is good advice to help you become less responsive, defensive and retaliatory, but keep it in balance. While everyone has their own prejudices and there is no real objectivity, you can, by never taking anything personally, your ability to see your own negative patterns and biased ideas, really limit and work towards the development of healthier models and lucid thoughts. As Scott Peck says in The Road Less Traveled: « The problem of distinguishing between who we are and what we are not responsible for in this life is one of the greatest problems of human existence. » I interpreted « is » as living in the present and « was » the representation of past behaviors. Tension change probably intentionally. The best way to develop knowledge is to bypass other evaluations and read the material and develop your own knowledge. Because I also look at topics in relation to me My opinion is that we all get something different from any book, based on completely different emotional reactions, based on the observations of a group that reads all four chords at the same time. There were about 50 of them, and I recommended it to a brother and sister who had a childhood trauma. He read the first chapters in tears, but he understood the healing power in himself. The first one only me off, but I understood that he was drawing why we shouldn`t believe that way. Be immaculate with your word.
Don`t take anything personal. Don`t make any assumptions. Always do your best. The light and the truth. At the end of the day, I think it is important that his agreements have the consequences you want. One drawback of the book is that some of the chords are too extreme, and if you take them literally, they can cause additional problems in your life if taken without a proverbial grain of salt. However, with a little balance and a sense of openness, these chords can change and alleviate stress. Here is an explanation of the four agreements.
We can use the fourth chord, Do Your Best, to encourage us to aspire positively. But this agreement also recognizes that « our best » varies from time to time, depending on our circumstances and our state of mind. The awareness of this fact leads to the realization that everything we do is our best moment, and this awareness can prevent us from having flags of ourselves if we are not up to an inappropriate level of perfection. Cccc`s comment seems to come from a person who is a bit un obstructed. Being really friendly and generous doesn`t mean letting selfish people walk around. When that happens, you probably won`t be as « enlightened » as you think you are yourself. Going after what you want in life is not selfish and it doesn`t need to hurt others. Cccc`s point of view, honestly, is very co-dependent.
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